Sex is an important part of life. It feels good, it’s fun and it brings couples together. These can pretty much go down as categorical truths. But what determines good versus bad sex? Well that’s a question that cannot be sufficiently answered in one sentence, but a good place to start is in the orgasm. For women, sexual intercourse without clitoral stimulation can take up to 20 minutes, and that’s for only about 30% of women. Meanwhile, men, on average only need about five or so minutes to reach their climax.
If you’ve dealt with premature ejaculation, you’ve probably thought to yourself, “Why me?!” It doesn’t have to be. This is a common problem that couples have encountered. In fact, premature ejaculation is one of the most feared, yet most common problems that men have. About a third of men, ranging from 18 to 60 years old have experienced issues with premature ejaculation. If you’ve ever experienced such a problem, here are a few strategies to turn that issue around, last longer, and enhance your connection with your partner.
Take breaks: If you feel it coming on, go ahead and stop for a minute and let your body settle. Little by little, your body will adjust, and eventually you will manage to last longer. Your partner won’t mind because it will be prolonging the experience and there’s no harm in that.
Think about other stuff: You might think it’s rude not to focus on your partner, but it’s ultimately to his or her benefit. What’s the most detestable, unattractive, non-sexual nonsense you can think of? Focus on that. At least until your body can get back to its base. Again, this can act as an in between until your body develops a tolerance.
Use the special spray: There are some topical solutions that can delay climax, sometimes allowing men to last up to 30 minutes without stopping. It must be applied ten minutes beforehand, so the whole spur of the moment aspect goes out the door. But if you can time it right, this has proven to be a reasonable solution.
Medicine: Here is where you absolutely want to speak to a specialist. Men who want to seek out medical assistance for their issues in bed have been prescribed anti-depressants to limit stimulation in bed. If done improperly, a number of side effect can occur, most notably, an inability to maintain an erection. So make sure you seek advice from a urology doctor New York City relies on.
Couples who have made it through their issues with premature ejaculation are known to end up with a stronger and more intimate connection. But it all starts with you taking the initiative and recognizing that you need to make a change. Simply telling your partner you’re not interested in foreplay isn’t going to cut it.
If you think you could use some guidance from a specialist, call Luzato Medical Group at 212-661-7003 to find out what we can do for you. Our physicians specialize in premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and all things pertaining to urology and men’s health. We’re located at 315 Madison Ave #407, New York City and we’re open weekdays.